Life

[Badfinger]

Good work Ben

 

Did he try to get back on the mic once you'd finished?

 

 

Pretty frequently for me, but then again I tend not to randomly chat people up in bars, etc., but usually through some kind of event, social circle or mutual friends. Before going on a date we've often already established that we get on alright.

 

Being in lots of different groups of people is something I'm good at. Not that things have gone terribly through things like OK Cupid, but in comparison to actual socialisation, it does feel like it's really not my thing.

 

 

I meant to heavily edit my post, and then I worked all day and came back to see the web page with the editing box open, I hadn't written anything, and lost my train of thought. By "work out" I mean "resulted in marriage" or the common law equivalent. What I was trying to say is if you meet someone and you like their smile and you get coffee and decide not to pursue, that's the online equivalent of sending 2 or 3 messages back and forth. It's that the "oh we just got coffee" doesn't FEEL like a failure like an aborted email conversation does (to me). I almost met someone at the gas station the other day. We had a conversation across the pump. I totally should have asked for her name and number. I thought about it. C'est la vie. A LIFE OF REGRET.

 

I've had a couple of years worth of long term relationships through online dating. I'm in the same position as Griddlelol, which I sort of touched on. I don't have this large social web to draw on where people are always trying to match me up. I actually find it strange that people are so weirded out by online dating. There are so many advantages to it over just throwing blind darts in public, unless you don't know how to type. I can remember a conversation I had a few years ago. I was in a relationship at the time where I met her online, one of the other participants was engaged with someone he met online (he's about 5 years older), and another was married to someone he met online (15+ years older than me). The last guy has been married since before the internet so he doesn't count. I also think it's an easy out because people don't know how to write, to just say "LOL I DON'T KNOW WHY I'M ON THIS SITE I DON'T GET ONLINE DATING TEE HEE."

 

Man I could write a novella just on all the shit that peeves me about what people put in their online dating profiles.

[Twig]

I have had an OKCupid account for a couple years now and have never actually talked to anyone. I also don't have any offline social networks from which to draw potential more-than-friendses.

 

I'm the worst.

[Ben X]

Also Ben, that was hilarious. Was that at the Dobbler's by any chance? thought I recognised the pub

 

Yes it was! We didn't go there together, though, did we? Do you know that pub separately? (I get the feeling you've told me this a million times while I've been drunk...)

 

Synth - your art is fucking great, push it. YOLO.

[Erkki]

I briefly talked with a girl at a conference party in the summer about board games and started getting into her a bit, then was interrupted and didn't get her contacts. Anyway, later I kind of went somewhat out of my way to get in touch with her through common acquaintances and googling (kind of stalking, I guess?), then asked her to join our board game nights and now I've been meeting her about every second week or so for months. I was hoping to date her, but she just wanted to be friends. I still like her as a friend though and I'm glad that I made a friend (I've only made a few lasting friendships since high school, and it was usually the other person's initiative). I'm especially glad because I didn't have many female friends before.

[syntheticgerbil]

Yeah man, your art is ace. I agree with what your teacher said. I don't know anything about art as a trade, but have you tried being a comic book artist? I feel that there's some surreal manuscript out there that's perfect for your style

God I want to, I have some stuff developed, but that requires more free time, which I won't have for the next year or so while I finish my school, all of the projects are so demanding.

 

Me too, is it intentional that your signature does not link to your deviantArt?

I guess I broke the links in my signature. Hmm, I don't know how to fix that. It's at mrseanlane.deviantart.com. It's just a duplicate of my website with maybe some extra stuff. It's just an easier way for people to find it.

 

Also thank you guys. I have one class only next semester so I think Christmas break and all I can start getting some final illustrations together to market.

 

Man I could write a novella just on all the shit that peeves me about what people put in their online dating profiles.

I WORK HARD AND I PLAY HARD.

[Badfinger]

I WORK HARD AND I PLAY HARD.

 

LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST!

[Hermie]

I met my Significant Officer online too. Not through a dating site, but through a forum like this one (not this one). In fact, that forum has led to 3 couples, 2 of which are married, and all of us are from different countries than our partners.

 

I have noticed a shift in attitude the last couple of years. The look on peoples face when they say "How did you meet?" and I reply "On the internet" used to be only confusion and judgement, but people care way less now. I always felt I had to add "Oh, but not on a dating site, through a discussion forum of mutual interest." But now, I can often leave it hanging.

[SuperBiasedMan]

Those are super sweet Synth! I can also see why you might have trouble with the studio system since it's pretty garbage and tuned to committee instead of individuals. And also games are hard to do with such a specific aesthetic compared to something with rounded off edges (unless you did a visual novel or something).

... I hope that all makes sense to you and not just me.

I definitely second the illustrator approach. Like any art career it's a bit rough but I think it'd suit your style from what I saw.

[Professor Video Games]

LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST!

 

Tell me, do you love to travel?

[Nachimir]

do u like going out but also staying in as well

[dibs]

[SuperBiasedMan]

"If you can't handle me at my worst,

Then you don't deserve me at my best."

-Martin Luther King

[Mangela Lansbury]

"I'm not racist, I'm just not into black people. It's a preference!" -racists

[syntheticgerbil]

... I hope that all makes sense to you and not just me.

Haha, I think so. It's definitely always been a problem when I'm on a team and I'm trying very hard to not fall in my usual way of drawing but sometimes end up doing it anyway. Straying away from outlines definitely makes it difficult for me since line work is a sort of a crutch and passion for me. Oh well.

 

MY FAVORITE MUSIC IS EVERYTHING. SRSLY

[undermind9]

i feel extremely lucky most days when i think about the conditions that I met my wife.  

 

My co-worker left for her honeymoon and i took over some her accounts (project management & customer service work) for the week.  By chance my SO wrote in looking for something to be fabricated, I happened to take the order and struck up a conversation for no good reason.  By the end of the week we were meeting for drinks & year and half later living together.

 

But had I not taken that order I am positive i'd still be working too much, meeting no one special in bars, and adding other BS profile pull-quotes to this thread 

 

I am mysterious, but also an open book

[Apelsin]

I want to sound interesting, but not scare anyone away!

 

Online dating has.. Well. Not really worked for me at all. All my fault though.

It's been the one thing all my therapists have suggested as a way to avoid some of the larger parts of my anxieties around meeting people, but I can't really get myself into it.

There is less anxiety for sure, but I still just end up sitting there looking at profiles wondering why any of these women would be slightly interested in talking to me :/

[Twig]

Hey me too with the caveat that I am not seeing a therapist, I am just conscious of it!

 

I want/need to see a therapist, though. I think. I mean I've come to that conclusion at least forty seven different times, but then I never make the effort to find one.

[syntheticgerbil]

By chance my SO wrote in looking for something to be fabricated, I happened to take the order and struck up a conversation for no good reason

Fabricating lies together?! Devious.

[Apelsin]

Fabricating lies together?! Devious.

 

Fabricating claims perhaps? I think you should be wary of any gardeners in your vicinity...

 

 

Hey me too with the caveat that I am not seeing a therapist, I am just conscious of it!

 

I want/need to see a therapist, though. I think. I mean I've come to that conclusion at least forty seven different times, but then I never make the effort to find one.

 

Talking to someone, in person, about my issues felt very good I found. Being able to actually open up about insecurities and vulnerabilities and have that person try and help left me feeling like I was taking at least some of the weight I've been carrying for such a long time off my shoulders.

 

I definitely recommend it. Of course, I'm lucky to live in a country with socialized healthcare so it's a lot easier for me to afford which is a consideration as well.

[Twig]

Yes, the cost has generally been the largest factor in my lack of action. I do have insurance but I'm pretty sure it won't make it free, and I don't make much. I mean I make enough to live, obviously, but.

[Dewar]

Generally insurance pays a good portion for mental maintenance. 

[Architecture]

So I just replaced the CPU fan in my mother's laptop, which crapped out last week.

 

Nothing like miniaturized computer repair to get the blood pumping--that shit was like bomb defusal.

[Roderick]

I'd like to add a little thing on the online dating stuff. I've been doing it for about a year now, had a few dates, nothing that really worked out. And what do you know? A few months ago I meet a girl on one of the anime conventions I frequent, where I sell my recent novel, and she hovered around my booth and we talked and clicked. Met up a few times and it was pretty much instant sparks. We've been dating ever since. I'm very excited about this, and surprised and delighted it came from the place I feel most happy and at home in.

 

What struck me as inherently awkward about online dating is that

1. You easily get into a rut of comparing profiles and making lists about what you want out of a partner. It's not only easy to start hiding behind those lists, often you don't really know what you want and what you respond to. Which is to say; those lists present an idealized version of what you think you want out of someone, but your heart might decide a totally different way.

2. When it comes to flirting, a big part of it is the playful tension where you give each other hints and, well, flirt, while it's not yet outspoken that you're interested in each other. It's so much harder to flirt when your cards are on the table. With online dating, it's out there: both parties know they want something out of the other, and that makes flirting kind of awkward, I found. You feel so goddamn obvious.

That's not a big knock on it, I think online dating's a great way to meet people, but it's also different and you have to accept that.

[Badfinger]

do u like going out but also staying in as well

 

I am comfortable dressed to the nines but also in a pair of sweats.

[dibs]

christmas party. i was described as asexual. i countered with isexual. i love me, to a great, but not patholigical degree. woo.

 

hows enveyone ? i'm good. we hadla lot to drink. the main tast i have is lo=ucozae and tequilaa. it was desceribled as a tequila sunrise, lies i tell you.