I made an OK Cupid profile like a day before Twig's post. I'm having a ton of fun with it. I'm surprised it has this many users around here, but then Helsinki is a bigger place than I'm used to. Anyway, I haven't met anyone yet, but it's been far, far nicer than I expected. It's super important to present yourself well in text as well as the photos, but I don't see what you could lose from trying it. It must have tons more users in SF. If you think someone has a boring profile, maybe you shouldn't contact her. Do the opposite yourself, open up about yourself. Don't just try to present yourself as a regular guy guy with guy hobbies. I've had three women ask me about Doctor Who and one about Joseph Conrad.
Oh yeah, I moved to Helsinki. I'm working at the local science centre to fulfil my obligation to defend the nation. It's bloody great, except I'm poor and they are working me as if they are paying me to do it. Still haven't finished my Master's Thesis and it's going to take a while. Anyway, life is pretty damn good except I only know a couple of people in this town and have little spending money (this does not in any way compare to actual poverty).
Tegan, your mom has to put something on the line. Every time you reach out, you are putting a piece of yourself on the line, which they have chosen to have for dinner. The last time she promised to help you, she lied about some money, which you need. Using that to lure you into the meeting was some special kind of Macchiavellian bullshit. She still owes you that money. If she wants to help you, there are concrete ways she can do that, ways that are simple and don't require an ounce of trust from you. I've never been in any kind of situation that resembles yours, so I suppose my advice is potentially dangerous... But my two cents are that trust is earned, but not by making promises.