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Your talk sounds very interesting, Dan! Presumably Dara Ó Briain will be mentioned at some point?

I'll be at Bit Of Alright, and probably Wild Rumpus too.

Any good anecdotes about your new boss being a dickbag, miffy? Nach, bad luck old chap. One of the reasons you're feeling okay about it is probably that it was clean and honest, so well done to the both of you, and have fun chatting up those other girls!

Escorts...WITH GUNS.

And they should do it half a metre in front of the camcorder. Either that or they should attack the anti-abortion protesters from the opposite direction that the camcorder is pointing.

"Hello mom? Yes, I am a smattering busy to playing resident Evil 5 with someone. Resident Evil? Your weet that co-op the zombie game? Yes, that is it? What? No, it is someone who hot toblix. I wanted that the ArmchairGeneral were however. I have this way much pleasure if we play together, we laugh and joke, and discuss serious matter also. I have the feeling I can which say what I feel really him, whereas at toblix I must to more care my words choose, so that he do not discuss my contempt. If he realised me that I only played with him for my aim skills which he this way sadly practice, but I it terrible because he is zo' n pocket shit. I hate him this way. Yes, I weet that you that also do. Good-bye my kind mother. I miss wet you to embrace! Kbedankt!"

I am so close on this. Having to lose the soft part, though, so all my softness doesn't herniate down into my ball-sack again.

Sports? I love the way they start accusing him of invasion of privacy and harassment, whilst following him down the road demanding his phone and shouting at him. I hope Anonymous park toy cars in front of her shop door every day.

They already had them in the first Star Trek reboot, the Romulans use them on Pike.

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RPS have started a new feature whittling down all the hardware out there down to 2 or 3 of each bit to choose from, to make it easier: http://www.rockpapershotgun.com/tag/hard-choices/ There's only the one article so far, on CPUs, and it may get outdated too soon to be helpful, but there it is.

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I believe Shakespeare spelt "wrath" (and his own name) correctly...

Wroth?

My nemesis! There are many films doing this already. I didn't enjoy the story at all, the film's style rendered it cliched and predictable. But, like I say, it seems I'm in the extreme minority.

Ben definitely does not need to see it again.

Time Gentlemen, Please!

Managed to get to the cinema (30 seconds walk to bus stop, 4 mins from bus stop to cinema, do-able) and see Haywire and The Artist. Enjoyed Haywire - lean, cool, good fight and chase scenes. Not much to it, but it's only 90 mins so you don't really care. I'm probably the only person in the world who didn't enjoy The Artist. A boring, shallow drama that is utterly unsuited to the black-and-white-no-sound gimmick. There was some charm in the first fifteen minutes or so, but after that I found it a real chore.

FINALLY! Been waiting for this for so long!

I love you, Subbes!

I can't agree that he's not involved in this relationship. He's her regular second and friends with both of them. I'd say that's very involved! Granted, it's not a poly relationship that he's actually a member of, just an open one that he's connected to. To clarify a little further, I think it's a good idea to say something now because I think you definitely need to say something at some point. If they sort things out, and everything goes back to the way it was before, you're still going to have to let her know about your feelings because otherwise you'll fuck yourself up. So I think it's better to tell her now (I agree, no "I love you"s or anything that presents expectations, just the basic info that your feelings are getting stronger) while she/they are redefining/fixing things, then step back. With fuck buddies/open relationships/etc, there's always a risk of someone starting to get attached, but as long as that gets flagged as soon as it happens, it doesn't have to cause problems. (Obviously that's not what happened here, but I'm saying that if she's experienced at this stuff, she hopefully won't be shocked or angry at you for what you feel, and will appreciate being told in a non-problematic way.)

My advice runs similar to everyone else's, especially Nach's most recent post. I think it would be a good idea to tell her you've developed feelings for her (really, it would have been a good idea to disclose this before any of the primary guy's dishonesty, to avoid complications and stick to the one rule of any working open relationship, which you've already cited). Let her know whatever happens you'll be there to give her support if she needs it. Also, I would advise you to do this asap. No waiting for days to call to arrange to speak to her at some point in the future. Just speak to her. It'll help her to have all the info on the table. Then step back and let her sort everything out, and prepare yourself for the possibility that she might sort things out with her primary and stop seeing you because your feelings might cause complications. If she does this, try to see it as a good thing, because hiding your feelings would have fucked things up at some point. Other possibilities that you should consider the correct reaction to are: - she gets back together with him but still wants you as a second. (If everyone, including him, knows the deal and is fine with it, this might be do-able. But it's high-risk for you.) - she breaks up with him, but doesn't want to continue anything with you. (Bummer, but again it's less messy than what might have happened.) - she breaks up with him and wants to start something with you. (Make sure you're both in it for the right reasons, and both being honest with each other!) The only other thing is that I don't think this has anything to do with it being an open relationship. They work just as well as any other kind of relationship, as long as everyone's being honest (which this guy wasn't, obviously) and getting what they want/need.

Except for that Emmy in 2005.

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So, SyntheticGerbil is a fan of Evan Dorkin, as am I. Anyone else? He's worked on ace shows like Space Ghost and Yo Gabba Gabba, and does many ace comics such as Milk And Cheese, Hectic Planet and Dork. I wish this guy got more work/could fix his physical/psychological obstacles that stop him from getting more done! http://evandorkin.livejournal.com/