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I am beyond furious at the guy saying threats were just "comedy." No, they are not. But this is why men are not allowed to put down "acting like the bad guys" as satire anymore, not that they were before but this is why. You are indistinguishable from the bad guys and that's probably intended.

Business are interested in continuing their business and also making a profit. If there are changes, they are usually not in the social interest but rather the interest of the business. They are not and should not be the arbitors of social change. I don't know, I just find your thoughts really simplistic like - well if you don't like it, oh well! Can't solve everything at once! I personally feel that making things better means working towards resisting capitalism but that's me.

It's okay to be skeptical - promoting or touting feminism as a commodity is also why I hate those Dove ads. It's not really reflective of radical politics, it's just companies. That being said - I do like representative media, then again, it isn't really diversity in media if you don't also hire more diverse people so they can benefit from all of this money going into these industries. There's no ethical consumption in capitalism, but the least you can do is pay people who aren't white dudes, basically. Edit: There's more than two genders.

I can definitely see what you're saying Argo - I mean, have feminists even explicitly appeared in Thor, ever? So calling her a feminist reads very "the author is coming through in the words" a little too strong.

I could always rail on the idea of feminism or women being acceptable when they embody typically masculine ideas of performance (using violence to solve issues) but part of me absolutely would love to break the jaw of some dude mouthing off to me. However, can someone explain to me what kind of villain this guy is, he just looks like a giant dark brute and that archetype tends to not sit right with me usually.

Yeah, that's why satire when you're part of the group being satirized falls flat a lot - if I don't know you, you pretending to be someone harmful to me is very hard to distinguish. It's hard to reach that rhetorical distance that makes the joke funny.

RE: The jokes thing I love riffs and joking but the stuff being discussed here is usually a really unfunny repeat of whatever joke you made. What's even worse is when people specifically don't understand that I have a dry sense of humor and frequently use exaggerated rhetorical questions and people respond to me literally. Heh. I should really just copy paste replies I get to stuff sometimes. It's gotten better since this article though.

Yeah, this article made me so happy because it covered 90% of the random shit men feel comfy doing on Twitter without realizing how it might come off, and it included that innocuous-but-super-weird-or-annoying stuff that's really hard to yell at someone for, lest you look like a monster. (However, she's like "favs are cool!" and I actually hate serial fav'ers because I'm old and I don't consider Twitter to be like Facebook - people who like my stuff nonstop is weird.) But yeah, unsolicited tweets are just weird most of the time, also because there's usually stuff to hang a reply to on? I almost NEVER send unsolicited tweets unless it's specifically about something to someone I don't know like a direct question. And I try to be very polite. I guess the difference here is - I read that article and it all makes sense to me. If someone is like "Maybe you shouldn't contact someone out of the blue" - that seems really reasonable and I don't know why myself and men have different reactions to being told something like that. (Okay, I do know what the difference is, but...)

Well what I know was literally just discussed on people's personal Twitter accounts, so I'll see if I can dig up a Storify or something.

Lizzy also aggressively harassed several trans women on Twitter, as well. So.

The Escapist is now just openly hiring gamergaters and other assorted trash babies, I guess.

I am so glad someone wrote this because there's legitimately some innocuous but extremely annoying things men do on Twitter, like make unfunny joke responses to your jokes or take your rhetorical questions as literal, or fave dozens of your tweets at once.

I am actually confused myself why if the forum HAD a parenting subforum, why those threads wouldn't be down there too, just from an organizational standpoint!

I dunno, I think it's incredibly disrespectful to talk about a cat with a visible mustache fur pattern and think, oh, I should name it after Frida Kahlo. I wouldn't name a cat after any famous woman of color in particular, though. Feels extremely callous. Edit: White feminists have a huge, historical problem with generally devaluing or ignoring women of color's contributions to the world or otherwise liberally borrowing them without compensation or crediting them, or grasping what kind of context there is about white women in particular doing that. Frida Kahlo was pretty critical of white people in general and yet her image and legacy get borrowed pretty regularly by feminists without remarking upon that or why that was important.

Something about this is way too breezy for me, even as someone who enjoys problematic media (which I can, because I understand that's a thing I can do), because she's more consumed with gendering her cat vs. the fact that she's calling a cat that has a mustache fur marking "Frida Katlo" and that doesn't bother her in the slightest? Yeah, let's pay respect to a famous Latina artist by making a joke about her facial hair.

Hi! Someone here who has gotten repeated death threats - the cops never told me to not talk about it publicly other than not actually contacting my stalker, though that was after the restraining order went live. However, talking about it publicly can sometimes lead to escalation from a stalker/harasser, but then again not talking about it will do that too, it really depends. Ken Levine is a giant asshole. What people often neglect to mention is that when you publicize a harasser's name, it lets other people know, who may not have known that they were up to that shit, know what they are doing.

The fact is that most of it comes from the fact that most of us play games but some people are REALLY uncomfortable with other groups playing said games, much less looking at them in a critical way. It's fear and insecurity and it falls along much larger sociopolitical lines due to how gaming has been marketed up until now. What is interesting is this is precisely what happened with Warcraft, other than the coordinated harassment campaign that started under the pretenses of revenge against an ex. Once more people started doing critical writing about Warcraft, despite all of us being fans of it, people started to get REALLY agitated. Like giant forum posts on the official forums agitated, and harassment in comments and on Twitter. People want to comfortably engage with a game without being made to feel like they are a bad person for engaging with problematic media despite that not being the intention of the critical work, but that never quite got through.

The real hilarity of the petition and Ken Levine, is that "this is a rift, this is some equal participation chasm" that addresses the mostly male gaming development community, and mostly male gaming press (which neither group touched very much wholesale) to heal some sort of "faction war" that was a concerted effort from a small third party of mostly men to oust marginalized people, mostly women, from both communities.

Because the useful bit, as cynical as this sounds, is fulfilling that role, versus actually caring about mothers as people? If that makes sense. I wouldn't even say babies are valuable, unless they are white, basically. A lot of it is ideological props. Motherhood as an idea is important, but being a mother with all of that material reality is not. Hence why they want to shut down abortion clinics but then get mad when more babies are born and require things like medicare and welfare! Whoa! I'm really sorry you're dealing with this, the lack of support financially for anything regarding this stuff is haunting. Is Viagra covered by insurance?

A TOAST! *throws toast at the screen*

I like how this is a rift between two parties and not a giant chasm that GG dug out themselves and are trying to push marginalized people into wholesale.

Yeah, I absolutely agree. For one thing, generally anything urological or gynecological is really underreported, -represented and -researched. It's great breast cancer has gotten a ton of money (truly, I am grateful) but honestly if we wanted to revolutionize cancer, focusing heavily on prevention/early detection vs. treatment, particularly for low income citizens would be great. Same with socialized medicine but yeah. I've been sort of watching Twitter convos unfold over the past 2 years too about these giant medical gulfs that their bodies or ailments fall into whether it is a lack of care for trans and non-binary individuals or things like lack of access to reproductive care. Or even things like PCOS, endometriosis being relatively overlooked, anemia or internal bleeding being missed because doctors still do not do comprehensive work regarding menstruation. This goes for cervical cancer as well - while there are easy ways to detect it, with PAP smears and stuff, it's hard to get routine check-ups for low income people when we regularly shut down clinics because they also do abortions, or generally just require such a high cost of care for them. It frustrates me a lot because cervical and uterine cancers are really scary and go unnoticed very easily. Same goes for uterine cysts as well. I wasn't diagnosed with PCOS despite exhibiting numerous signs for most of my teen years until I started menstruating for several months at a clip straight.

I think something that doesn't help is often how breast cancer awareness campaigns have gone into the "save the boobies" realm - as if the breasts are an essential part of a body, particularly a woman's body, that needs to be preserved over health and well-being. That sort of stuff bothers me a ton, especially seeing what kind of positive outlook my mom had, even in spite of losing a whole breast. It's crass and it essentializes a part of a woman's body to breasts, and casts a sexual value to it over women being well.

Tip from me to you that they don't tell you - put sunscreen particularly in your part-line. It's the first place you will get a bad sunburn.

I would highly, highly say no nude selfies given that this forum is public access.