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I heard you were talking shit about Cheese Castle. (Which is literally just a glorified grocery store but it has a pretty decent bar where you can eat tons of cheese.)

Oh that's you? Okay. I have to obsessively go through all new followers and read their timeline now.

I know that people scoff at trigger warnings but despite an article having them, and me feeling mentally up to it, reading a Kotaku article on people who make machinima rape porn of some of my favorite video game women protagonists, I had an emotional meltdown and spent most of a bus ride trying not to cry. Some days it's really a lot harder than other days. They don't give you a handbook on how to cope.

I am reading all these responses but it's also intensely difficulty for me to actually talk about nitty gritty sex details with men so I'll keep it general but even though a lot of people scoff at second wave "ALL HETERO SEX IS RAPE" reductionist BS, Dworkin's work in that regard has been a good ideological place to start in really doing some soul-searching on consent. Granted, was it very reductive, absolutely. Does it not jive with sex positive feminism? Not in the slightest. But it does make you start thinking about power dynamics on a macroscopic level with regards to sex. It is incredibly difficult sometimes to have sex in a meaningful and healthy way in our society, especially as a woman who has slept with men. I have done quite a many things that I thought I wanted and looking back, not really did but did it because I thought that's "just what you do." Can you give consent? Yes, absolutely. I have been in consenting sexual situations. But I've been in them so little that I know that giving consent to a man as a woman is very hard for me and has to be negotiated in very specific circumstances and a lot of men, no matter how well intentioned, have no idea or have no desire to actually try. This is really what the heart of "all hetero sex is rape" bit is about, that if our society pretty much puts men at the top of the power dynamic food chain, can you really consent? It's not something that has one answer, even for the same person, even in the same time frame. The part of consent no one seems to really talk about is that long before you get to sex, our society is trained to violate your consent in a billion innocuous ways. Your personal space, any sort of "no" or the fact that there's many situations where you can't even express a no, and none of these things are sexual. Telling a man no in a lot of ways is a dangerous proposition and very few people respect it. Control and consent are two very important things that we deprive many people of on a personal and structural level. As far as "wanting things that seem degrading" and sex positive feminism - I only advocate for sex positive feminism that recognizes that our sexual desires are not beyond the realm of criticism/scrutiny, and that they don't happen in a vacuum. I also do not advocate for sex positive feminism that doesn't recognize that part of sexual behavior is the need to sometimes abstain or be not-sexual. Sex positive feminism runs roughshod sometimes over SA/rape victims or other people like asexuals that do not wish to partake in certain sexual experiences. It also sometimes uncritically posits that all sex is great and good and that's not even close to being true. All sex being great and good ignores quite a few intersections when it isn't or can't be sometimes for many people. It's very hard to also feel like I can express my sexual proclivities safely or publicly when it's very much been used against me in an abusive way for years, no matter how many people tell me that it's okay. As long as people respect that about me, I am fine. Edit: So my post isn't a fucking huge downer - feminism has greatly helped me cope with years of rape and sexual assault. I take it very seriously in this regard but it's given me a lot of methods of coping and seeking help. I really hope everyone else respects it regarding this conversation in particular as much as I do.

Isn't this literally because Rami Ismail made gamedev.world ?

I hate when people pull this shit, and it's ALWAYS when you're criticizing men with large audiences.

The creator of Vanishing of Ethan Carter is just digging a hole straight to hell right now, isn't he?

The reason people do that is because there have always been specific campaigns organized by men at every juncture to discredit whatever name women adopt for themselves - but feminism in specific had campaigns against it in the 80s, spearheaded by the right wing (most notably Rush Limbaugh iirc).

I straight up muted apple watch on Twitter. I don't even care if it's gauche to announce one's mutes but it seriously just made Twitter more bearable today. I honestly just have never owned an Apple product.

At this juncture, people like him should not and cannot willfully post stuff like this when Google is at their disposal.

That would be a really interesting thing to write about if there were a way to nail proof of that.

First wave feminism was women's suffrage (so turn of the century), second wave was women's liberation in the 60s-70s (so think porn wars, birth control, civils rights stuff) and third wave is everything from 90s onwards, which is a lot of including much more complex ideological concerns like trans women (2nd wave was notoriously transmisogynistic) and including more women of color (though womanism has always existed due to feminism being very white-centered in many parts).

I just don't understand why you wouldn't want to just PAY people to provide security for the con versus unvetted volunteers from the community.

I do not want parity with men under patriarchy, I absolutely want patriarchy radically destroyed.

Yep, all of this is coded language that's aggressively hostile of femininity.

I say "folks" and "y'all" because while "guys" has been accepted as neutral, it really isn't! It's been hard though because I was raised in New York and "youse guys" is part of my vocabulary.

Language has a way of impacting our thoughts - doing a simple action like removing harmful words from my vocab eventually does have an impact on how I consider these subjects and people in a larger way, I believe. It's not self-censorship, it's believing that people shouldn't have to hear garbage words come out of my mouth. As someone who gets shitty language thrown at consistently, I know how it feels. My life has improved 10000% by surrounding myself with people who make a point not to use shitty language.

I am excited for all the announcements that got made all of GDC between Offworld, OAPI/CrashOverride team-up, etc.

This is like when GamerGaters wanted to raid the NSA director.

It was like "gaming is for everyone! #gamergate" with a graphic that had an ostensibly feminine hand with nail polish holding one side of a controller and a hand that didn't holding the other end of it.

Ableism really is a thing, so I've scrubbed many of those terms out of my language, and I'm slowly working on completely removing any language that degrades people's intellect in general.

Seconding the no, and the phrase in question was "We're getting raped by postage costs" or something similar. I've had to correct my own sister to not use rape casually, it's so much more weird when women bust it out.

Would "Lord's Quest" have saucy ads with Chris Remo showing off some neck and shoulder while saying "Come play with me, YOUR LORD"

It was a really awkward, unsettling moment that I'm juxtaposing with the visual image of casually ignoring it because I really can't address it within the confines of my employment.

My female boss dropped "rape" as a casual term in our biweekly department meeting today. *dances away, throwing flowers everywhere*