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Gwardinen, what is it about the current situation specifically that makes you unhappy? Is it the fact that you're not her primary, or is it that she has another guy at all? Or that you don't think she feels about you the same way you feel about her? And then after you identify what makes you sad: what exactly would you change about the whole arrangement in order to be happy? Do you think she'd be happy as well?

Absolutely! Yes, but then this begs the following questions: why does it seem like "hey I love you for reals" is a Big Reveal that is dramatic and unacceptable? Is it because Gwardinen wants to be the primary? Because he wants a monogamous relationship with her? The way he's going about it gives me the feeling that he expects this to rock the boat. So, it would be wiser and more graceful to wait until the immediate primary problems are resolved or done away with, and in the meantime continue in the same role he is already (friend, but with benefits obvs). This is an excellent point in general, but maybe not quite applicable in this situation, since his friend status is kind of more in the relationship area than entirely platonic. So the ulterior motives have kind of already been accomplished. I would like to clarify here that when I said to step back and be there for her, I don't mean to lose the intimacy you already have with her. Basically just keep doing what you're doing but don't get in the middle of the fight. Sorry if I was unclear because this is important! We still need to know what Gwardinen wants the outcome to be, exactly. That's the tricky bit. He's in a relationship with Girl A. The relationship he is a part of is Girl A - Guy B. Relationship A-A does not involve him, so problems between A and A are not his to meddle with, just as Girl B should not meddle with A-A. The fact that Girl B sort of got in the middle between A-A by virtue of Guy A keeping a secret and messing with finances is what caused trouble in the first place. What Gwardinen should be concerned with is only the feelings of himself and Girl A towards Gwardinen on an intimate level, and Guy A on a purely platonic friend level (to whatever capacity Gwardinen is comfortable with). edit: \/\/\/ aahhh your cousin is adorable!

Whoooa no. No, hell no. Yes. Yes, this exactly. NOPE NOPE NOPE ABORT. I know it's hard to leave the situation alone, because you feel so deeply invested in it, but although it seems counterintuitive to think so, it really has nothing to do with you. I know, right? It's crazy! But it involves a relationship that does not involve you, only Girl A and Guy A (you are Guy B, for future reference). Now is not a good time to lay your feelings out there, because Girl A currently has a full plate of shit to deal with from Guy A. Talking to her about your needs will divest the weight from your shoulders, but it will put it all on her. My suggestion is you distance yourself for a little bit while this all sorts itself out. Be there for her, and for him, as a friend. Offer to do friend-things for her, like, I dunno, invite her out for coffee or something. If she wants to talk, she will talk. If she doesn't, don't force her, and definitely don't pile your problems on. As for your own situation, I don't think you're in a very good place. Consider that, even if her relationship with Guy A dissolves, she is still polyamorous. If she decides to enter into a relationship with you, this is most likely not going to change. You have to really examine your feelings about it: would you be okay with that? Do you accept this part of her, or are you just suffering through it to be with her? While you wait for them to sort their things out, think about your own priorities and needs. Think about whether being in an open relationship is something you want, or something you tolerate. If it's the latter, then it's probably not all that good for you. Also keep in mind this other thing you said: So, if you were to tell this girl how you feel, what would you even want the answer to be?

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No because joblessness problems are less entertaining and not as easy to solve. Grown man love problems are fun though! So, Rodi, wanna talk about your love problems??

Sadly it doesn't actually have anything to do with being a romantic, and more with being a teenager full of hormones. But that is ok because you'll grow out of it. Godspeed Speedy

I'm frankly surprised it ever even got this far considering how things went the first time. Speedy, her telling you this is basically saying "HEY WELL THIS WAS FUN BUT I HAVE STUFF TO DEAL WITH OK BYE" and giving you an easy out. This is more than most people get! She's not abandoning you because, really, she was never with you. You just had a nice moment together; it's not sustainable, but you can keep the moment. So regarding Girl A you have two options: a) Say "oh well ok bye" and carry on with your life, leaving her to deal with her own shit by herself like a grownup (this will take a long time, DO NOT DO THIS IF YOU'RE THINKING 'I WILL LET HER DEAL WITH IT AND THEN GET WITH HER' BECAUSE THE 'THEN' IS MOST LIKELY NOT GOING TO HAPPEN BEFORE YOU FORGET ABOUT IT) Become embroiled in an endless spiral of uncertainty and drama that will make you feel like a super special emo snowflake and will certainly keep you busy and entertained, and give you lots to write about in your journal. (Don't do this. Just don't.) Regarding Girl B, what you have is a girl expressing her attraction to you. What do you do? You consider: are you attracted to her? Is she interesting, intriguing and stable? Do you like the idea of being with her? If the answer to any of these questions is "yes" then by all means ask her out and see if there's chemistry there and the interpersonal dynamic is fun and satisfying. Don't worry, it's really not as complicated as it seems. TL;DR what subbes said.

Kind of late to Big Bang Theory chat, but I wanted to show you this video: a scene from the show, with the laugh track removed, and the laugh track pauses also removed to make it less Lynchian (here it is with the awkward silences if you're into that sort of thing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfFd_wOQsGQ ) zS5a7RBB4vk I think this comment sums it up best: "Suddenly, the show becomes a drama depicting the everyday life of a man struggling with high functioning autism."

Yeah, sorry, it's true. She is a mind-boggling creature, that Victoria Jackson.

Everybody chill. Let's abridge more serious literature shall we? pYLHpg5HwZ0 this isn't the YouTube thread but it is ON TOPIC!

Aw man come on. At least one of those working stiffs was a security guy who got trampled when he opened the door, through no fault of his own.

What kind of drugs? On the flight to Serbia I took some kind of sleeping pill, and it made me claustrophobic and restless and anxious and made the hours pass like days. So obviously I'm doing it wrong.

Thanks everyone! Now off to harass webcomic people! I'll start with the toughest one of all: Kingzjester the Internet Angryman! Psst, syntheticgerbil... you can get a 30% off Thumb Discount, if you want

It's time for The Holidays so I'm gonna obey the marketing imperative and plug my shit. I make needlefelted animals, like so– bats: the occasional alebrije: etc: I sell these things over here, to make a living. I'll soon be opening a new store where I do nothing but fanarts, but ideally only of things that I can actually get permission for and can give a small percentage to the characters' creators. I'll start with webcomics. Then I'll try for other things, like maybe indie video games. Then the wooorrrld Do you guys think people like Steve Purcell and Tim Schafer would be receptive to something like this?

I dunno, I didn't interpret it that way because personally I think something can be art and yet add nothing to culture. But that is a whole other of :worm: and let's just not go there. It's from my favorite tumblr ever! http://disneyfaceswap.tumblr.com/

This video displeases me.

I gotta say I found it pretty funny in a bewildering sort of way when you exploded at an argument that no one was making. Anyway good for them for making a thing, I guess, even though it's difficult to see it as anything other than utterly pointless. More so than most things that people create, imo. Ok I'll admit that last sentence is unnecessary provocation sorry

Yeah but like I sort of obliquely mentioned in my post, doing that would be taking a thing that one usually experiences on screen and taking it into a whole new context, where it can be experienced in real life. That is damn cool, if not entirely original. This is more the equivalent of painstakingly animating a scene from Star Wars by hand while making it look exactly the same as it does in the movie so you can't tell the difference between it and the actual movie scene. It doesn't bother me whether or not it's art. In fact, I don't think anyone has even mentioned the term art besides you. What bothers me is that it offers nothing new in terms of experience. And what frustrates me is the fact that so much work went into that and they obviously have the skill to make something original and awesome, buuuut they didn't. And 'geeks' can think whatever we/they want, why are you so mad?

Yeah, that's what bothers me about it too. It's just recycling a piece of culture without changing the way we experience it or changing it at all. It feels really pointless, even in a way than fanart or references. It's hardly even changing its context in regards to the viewer, it just takes away interactivity which makes it even more boring.

I wanna post an excerpt from The Imperfectionists, which is an awesome book, and I feel this bit is relevant here: I find it comforting. I hope you do too.

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The girl who stopped talking to you when she found out your age and then acted like nothing had happened? She's not talking to you again? Umm, maybe, actually, you should shift your sights elsewhere. Thunderpeel, you are right, but I don't know if one can actually consider this a long-term relationship at any point in its existence.

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