Salka

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  3. Posted

    You know, it makes me sad because it's either narcissists doing this, or vulnerable and more socially awkward guys who just want to get women and are promised that this will work for them. I think it's important to shed light on this stuff, and to openly ridicule it (because it IS ridiculous), and that way hopefully it will remain primarily a playground for narcissists and not katamari some socially awkward guys along with it.

    Also, I know this sort of guy well, because my Dad was one. There are only a few ways to get to them because they are so incredibly deluded. Nobody can talk sense into them, no life experience can shock them back to reality. Narcissists, like my Dad, can often become parodies of themselves; they become so convinced that everyone believes them, that their world of lies and hyperbole becomes an hilarious spectacle. That's why I'm having so much fun reading through the posts of these guys; even the worst ones are hilariously tragic. They just have no idea what they look like to normal people. They think they're so cool, but they're just a total shambles. They rant about how all women are stupid in one thread, and then ask how to shave properly in another.

    It's genius.

  4. Posted

    http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-9160.html

    "So true. The other day this girl wanted to come over and I told her not to show up without a pizza. She was on my porch and knocked and I looked from my bar perch and said I see no pizza so go home bitch. She ended up leaving then texts me some shit about little ceasars. I said ya know what? You can just fuck off all together. A top notch pizza is 13 dollars and a little ceasars is 5 or so this bitch can plow through 30 dollars in drinks an hour which doesn't bother me but when she has to spend?"

    Amazing.

  5. Posted

    Thing is with these narcissist types, is that I think whatever the general public believes, whatever the popular opinion on equal rights and respect for all, they will still hate women regardless, because women are one thing that can so easily damage their fragile ego with a simple rejection, one that is upheld by the law - they can't just rape them to take what they want, which is I suspect why so many of them seem to wildly deny that rape actually exists.

    It's basically a mental disorder that incorporates misogyny as one of its most key features... They also all seem to be under the impression that other men are either like them, or wish that they were (something my dad thought too... for instance, everyone hits their wife, people only pretend to be normal on the outside. He truly believed it and used it to justify his own behaviour, as do these PUAs I guess, and as do rapists).

    So although there is still a lot of misogyny in the world, these little communities are so utterly disconnected from reality that it falls within the realms of insanity more than misogyny, for me. A lot of normal guys will make the odd sexist remark or make presumptions based on gender, as will women with men, but normal guys do not think or do the things that these narcissists do.

  6. Posted

    It wasn't as horrific as you might be thinking, maybe. My mum was sexually assaulted in front of us, but we weren't. Most of the degradation for us came from incidents like... So, a neighbouring farmer was doing him a favour and cutting back the hedges in the garden, but someone usually has to walk in front of the cutting machine and make sure there are no big rocks or bits of anything in the grass that might damage the blades on the machine. So, my dad made me (I think I was about 12) and my mum dress in short shorts and a vest, and walk in front of the machine as the farmer was driving it, and told us that that farmer was going to be getting off on watching us. I think the moral of the lesson was that if we behaved like whores we would get treated like whores, but I can't actually remember what it was that had set him off in the first place - usually it was something like that he'd had a bad dream in which we'd done something wrong and annoyed him, because very few times did we ever purposely set a foot wrong. That wasn't one of the worst incidents but it gives you a general idea of what I mean, I guess. Lots of references to us being sluts and whores, pretty much like all these narcissist PUAs and how they view women.

    I guess that's why he needed to move out to somewhere where the women are generally more submissive; even when this was happening and I was 12 and cut off from society, I still knew it was wrong and the workings of a madman, so it did little to change my view of him as being a mentalist that I'd eventually escape, rather than securing a place in my head for him being some kind of master or godly figure to be feared and respected, which I think is what he was aiming for, and again, fits so well with how these PUA guys view themselves.

    I'm not a total fuck-up, by the way, I managed to escape pretty much mentally unscathed from such a messed-up upbringing, except that I was a bit of an odd, socially insecure teenager. But it has given me an interesting insight into a life that people rarely get to experience (thankfully).

    As a child I never attempted to seek help because my dad came across as a smooth talker and I was afraid nobody would believe what he was really like. But here, on the internet, there are entire fucking NESTS of guys exactly like him, little lairs where they go to slap each other on the back and congratulate and encourage each other. It's amazing to see, because they are not hiding away their true personalities, they're just slapping them right out there on the table for everyone to see. You could tell me any one of those guys is my dad and I would believe it.

    It's totally mental. But amazing. Look at them all; they're like feral dickheads or something.

  7. Posted

    I was recently discussing Unilad with Nachimir. If you haven't heard about it, to fill you in: some guys who run a website instructing other University guys how best to get laid, wrote an article stating that most girls are sluts and whores, and if getting her drunk doesn't make her spread her legs, 85% of rapes go unreported anyway.

    I had a quick look through the site before it was taken down, and the content was horrific, unfunny and hugely misogynistic. But, it was familiar to me.

    There are very popular blogs out there such as RooshV and Danger & Play, which promote exactly the same attitude towards women, and sadly, have a lot of followers. They are so far removed from the average guy that I don't feel anger when reading their posts; I'm just amazed. They fit the description of a narcissist perfectly; in fact, RooshV even seemed to embrace the fact he is a narcissist, he even posted his test results.

    The followers are similarly amazing. Check out this angry and incoherent post about why women are not smarter than men, or comments like these. I found a thread yesterday where one guy was complaining that he thought his girlfriend was cheating on him because she'd changed the hand her promise ring was on, but he needed to stay with her because he had no job at the moment and she was his only income. I think it was the first post that someone replied "she's probably looking for someone who earns more than you, typical fucking woman just hanging on to men for the cash". They all agreed, and advised him to stay with her for the money until he got a job and moved on comfortably, with no ability to see how hypocritical they were being! There was another thread in which someone claimed confidently that if I women was wearing revealing clothing, it was a sure sign she wanted you to approach her, whether she knew it or not.

    Weirdly, I find reading this stuff strangely soothing. My dad was a classic narcissist and held many of the same views and beliefs as these guys. He suckered on to my mum for financial support, and towards the end of their relationship he would talk endlessly about how 'horrible and masculine' UK and Irish women had become (ie., independent and generally no longer bothered to put up with people like my dad). He wanted to move to China because women there 'knew how to treat a man'. He was violent, liked to sexually degrade women, and was the only person I have ever known who could look at himself in a mirror and say out loud to whoever was listening: "fuck ME, I'm goodlooking."

    I never knew what to make of it until finding this community of men who are all exactly like clones of him. It makes sense now; in a way, reading these comments is like getting an insight into my narcissistic father. It's like getting answers to questions I've wanted to ask for years. It also is a bit of a tragic comedy. These are all men who love themselves and their egos far too much, so much that they are losing touch with reality. My dad got worse as the years wore on, and they will too. They hide behind the internet, deleting comments from people who damage their ego, creating a safe little play-area in which they can air their views to others just like them. I'm pretty sure from the scenarios they describe, that most of them make up a great deal of their sexual encounters, or at least embellish the details hugely.

    It's both sad, and hilarious, that these guys whose egos are so fragile are themselves the desperate sluts that they paint women as being, but their ability to delude themselves is so great that they can't, and probably won't ever see it.

    I suggest flicking through those sites, they're a healthy mixture of horrifying and hilarious.

  8. Posted

    Has anyone seen Chronicle? The trailers look really gash, one of the ones they're showing on TV has an irrelevant Jesse J song played over it. So I googled it just because I wanted to know why it was so terrible, but there seem to be lots of good reviews of it. I don't usually look at film reviews so I don't know if it is normal for shit movies to have good reviews or something. I'm really curious. It looks really bad.

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    ...So on my way to Uni today, I saw that outside the abortion clinic there were some protesters with large placards of 9-week-old aborted foetuses, and more importantly, a camcorder on a tripod, filming people going into the clinic.

    I asked why they have the camcorder, and they replied that it was for their own protection in case people attack them. I asked if they thought it was slightly intimidating perhaps, and might upset or intimidate people who were attempting to access a perfectly legal medical service. They said no, and then held up a picture of an aborted foetus and yelled 'THIS is intimidating!'. Then they pointed at a girl in a pink tracksuit who was standing a little way down the street, and added 'we just saved her baby.'

    It seems a real shame that their street counselling service is only available on Thursday mornings. So, I wonder what the legality would be of the following: I'd like to find out the names, addresses and workplaces of the protestors (there are only five), and make it public knowledge so that anyone seeking advice or follow-up care can contact them directly at their home address. I'm sure they have no qualms about their anonymity being removed as they will quite happily film girls of all ages attempting to access a perfectly legal medical procedure, or point out those on the street who they've just turned away from having an abortion.

  15. Posted

    Hey listen, I've already made fun of his pick-up attempt on a public forum, there's no need for me to start picking apart his appearance too. Also, I love soft cuddly programmers who play lots of video games and hate both playing and watching sports, so I would be a terrible judge of how hot a random guy is. And, I was sweating into my own eyes at the time.

    Wow it took me so long to write this reply because I kept wandering off to do things, now there are replies inbetween so it's all disjointed. Oh well.

  16. Posted

    Yeah, tell me about it. We're both obviously sisters as well, we're very similar. I don't know why it makes it worse to ask two sisters out with the line "I'm not fussy," but somehow it does.

    Also, Olivia has this thing where she laughs hysterically when she's nervous, which made it even more dreadful.

  17. Posted

    Today, my little sister and I went climbing at a local climbing wall. A total meathead approached as we were clambering our way around the bouldering wall.

    "I don't normally do this," he called up at us, "but would you like to go for a drink with me?"

    Because we had been climbing and therefore had our faces to the wall, I had to turn around to see him, while still clinging to the wall. It was, overall, very awkward and inconvenient.

    "Are you talking to me, or her?" I called back.

    "Either," he said, "I'm not fussy."

    I don't know how he could have come back and redeemed himself after such an horrible start, but that definitely wasn't it.

  18. Posted

    I know, it's dreadful isn't it? I'm so poor. That's why I need the Purple Sparkle Jazzmaster, because once I have that I won't need anything else anymore ever.

    I think the reason I want so much stuff is because I've been a student for the past three years and so haven't been able to buy the things I've wanted, therefore accumulating a massive list of WANT.

  19. Posted

    Hehe, as it happens I was using Audacity as my sound recorder, but as the mic wasn't picking anything up I decided to test it in windows Sound Recorder just in case it was a problem with Audacity. Which it wasn't! Yay.

    Yeah, the first time I opened a couple of folders it took a lot longer than following times, it seemed. Weird. It's still not the snappiest experience I've ever had, and it still doesn't come out of sleep mode properly most of the time. Bit frustrating. I pretty much know dick all about the finer details of various operating systems, certainly not enough to have the automatic repulsion of Windows that many people do, but it does seem just a tad shite. I use Windows for art and music stuff, which is lots of the time, but when I load into Ubuntu instead I have no problems with sleep mode or anything.

    Maybe I should just shut up and find Linux equivalents of all the software I use, and then always load into Ubuntu and just get the fuck on with it, and maybe then I'd swear less too.

  20. Posted

    Hang on a second, am I just being a total idiot or does the sound recorder on Windows 7 not have a playback function?? What kind of total fuckwit designs a piece of recording software with no playback functionality???

    I was trying to get my mic and in the process of trying to figure out what was wrong, I tried windows Sound Recorder just to be sure it wasn't a problem with the other program I was using. I had to save the recording and play it back in a different program?!?? And why do folders have loading bars?? It took ten seconds to open Control Panel, ten seconds of staring at a loading bar slowly filling across the top... What on earth is happening that it needs a fucking loading bar for when you open a folder? Am I doing something wrong???

  22. Posted

    I hate computers (I also love them though). Why do Windows PCs rarely re-emerge successfully from sleep mode? Like ever since I can remember, this has been a problem, but one that I've never had with Ubuntu even though it's installed on a laptop that is struggling so hard to keep on living that it gets too hot to touch after about ten minutes, and sometimes sparks come out of the back if you pick it up when it's plugged in... but it always comes out of sleep mode in Ubuntu just fine.

  23. Posted

    I feel like the purple sparkle jazz master is an attempt to bridge the gap between guitars and adult toys.

    My eldest son has your disease. He has spent over £1000 on guitars and related paraphernalia and is always on the lookout for another guitar. He wants to get an effects pedal so if you get anywhere with building your own I'd be interested to know how you get on. You could name your creation a similar vein as the sparkle jazz master.

    Guitars are adult toys already as far as I'm concerned... the purple sparkle finish is just a bonus on an already beautiful toy. In my defense, I don't ever buy makeup, and hardly ever buy clothes (most of mine are hand-me-downs from other people because I hate shopping). Most women allegedly spend almost £1000 a year on makeup and clothes, so in theory I've got that extra cash floating around to spend on Guitars, Robots, Pokémon or Stamps. Also, having things like guitars makes it more fun to sit at home on your own when you have no money to go out because you spent it all on guitars.

    A friend of mine has pedal-building knowledge, we've agreed to try and build an 8-bit pedal of some sort. I want in on the building action, so I'll learn all his secrets and report them back to you. I saw there are pedal-building kits online but I'd much rather create something stupid looking that's covered in wires and exposed circuitry and stuffed into a case that doesn't fit, which is probably what I'd get either way, actually.

    I will call it SparklePwny 8-bit Fuzz.

  24. Posted

    When I was little I used to collect robots, but then my brother was born and broke them all. Now I'm starting to think about guitars a bit too much; I can feel the obsession starting to take over, like when I was given my first Robot, or Pokémon, or stamp.

    I'm a poor student, I can't afford such an expensive hobby, but I think if I had a purple sparkle J Mascis Signature Jazzmaster I'd probably be happy and wouldn't need any more guitars ever again.

    I also really want to to start building my own effects pedals. Does anyone else have any experience of doing this? It seems like something that would be fun to experiment with.

    This post is poorly constructed and I'm a little bit sorry about that, I'll try harder next time if you sell me your Purple Sparkle Jazzmaster.

  25. Posted

    Sorry to hear that Gwardinen, but with regard to Miffy and PiratePoo's suggestion: Yeah, absolutely. What Yufster says is harsh but right. Given what you've told us about the situation and how guy A has been treating her, she's being an ass if she's the one worried about upsetting him. These kind of things run deep though, and you can't exactly change them in others.

    Ditto on what Rodi said. When it comes to broken hearts, hope is the enemy of your progress and wellbeing. I did the same thing in my teens with someone, and since understanding how it works, if possible and necessary have got anyone since to swiftly crush all hope relating to them. It speeds up the process of getting over them.

    Hope for other, better stuff. There are other people you'll love.

    Yeah I don't know why it sounded so harsh, reading back over it... I meant it to be lovely. You know, because while things are bad right now, in a short while he'll be with something epicly well-matched and wonderful and this will be a mere blip in his life.

    Instead it sounded like this: :( RAGHRAGHARGH IT'S OVER MOVE ON RAGHRAGHARGH :(