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Exactly! Trying to motivate him to sort it out before it comes to that!

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I think I might be done with online dating. It feels like a chore, and when it's led anywhere it's mostly been to things that really don't work out (or lovely dates that then go south: On one, we were getting on amazingly then she got a little bag out to show me her magic crystals…). I've made a few friends through it who've all said "Yeah, I gave up on that too". It feels like a lot of the people I exchange messages with are waiting for any given site to spit up someone perfect at them.

 

I feel way better about meeting people by going out and doing stuff.

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I feel way better about meeting people by going out and doing stuff.

My SO and I met by online dating. From what I've heard it's pretty rare that it actually works out. I really enjoyed my time doing it mainly because I met a ton of people I'd never have met by going out and doing stuff, simply because of different interests.

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I think I might be done with online dating. It feels like a chore, and when it's led anywhere it's mostly been to things that really don't work out (or lovely dates that then go south: On one, we were getting on amazingly then she got a little bag out to show me her magic crystals…). I've made a few friends through it who've all said "Yeah, I gave up on that too". It feels like a lot of the people I exchange messages with are waiting for any given site to spit up someone perfect at them.

I feel way better about meeting people by going out and doing stuff.

I watched the first episode of My Lovely Sam-Soon last night to confirm that what I wrote about it is true. I was concerned that I had gotten excited and just went into assumptive territory when writing about it earlier. Nope, I was very accurate in my description.

Anyway, with the first episode fresh in my mind, reading your post about online-dating, I'm like "This is a match made in heaven." It's not because of online dating though, it's because the male-lead over hears Kim Sam-Soon's break-up while he's meeting someone on a blind date (His mother sets those up.)

I know this looks like me trying to get you to watch it, but I know it's more me than you. I guess I've watched so many korean-drama romantic comedies that any time I hear an actual anectdote about someone's love-life, I end up associating it with an episode. I'm oddly ok with that but I bet it gets annoying for everyone else.

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My SO and I met by online dating. From what I've heard it's pretty rare that it actually works out. I really enjoyed my time doing it mainly because I met a ton of people I'd never have met by going out and doing stuff, simply because of different interests.

 

How frequently do in-person meetings work out, though? A statistically significant portion of relationships (at least in NA) come from online dating. I've been a member of online dating sites for quite a while. It doesn't feel like it's "better" than randomly meeting someone. It also doesn't feel worse. I wish I knew all these places that I could "go out and do stuff" to meet women. I belong to multiple sports leagues, I literally worked in a bar. I've acted on and off since high school. All the women are either taken or gay. Internet at least they're looking, too.

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So uh...my uncle (in law) has been arrested on charges of possessing child pornography. Merry Christmas, I suppose.

 

Oh man, that's an uncomfortable piece of news. I really feel for you.

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The awful open mic host at the pub last night and the drastic steps I took to give everyone a brief respite from him:

 


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Good work Ben :)

 

Did he try to get back on the mic once you'd finished?

 

How frequently do in-person meetings work out, though?

 

Pretty frequently for me, but then again I tend not to randomly chat people up in bars, etc., but usually through some kind of event, social circle or mutual friends. Before going on a date we've often already established that we get on alright.

 

Being in lots of different groups of people is something I'm good at. Not that things have gone terribly through things like OK Cupid, but in comparison to actual socialisation, it does feel like it's really not my thing.

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Good work Ben :)

 

Did he try to get back on the mic once you'd finished?

 

 

Pretty frequently for me, but then again I tend not to randomly chat people up in bars, etc., but usually through some kind of event, social circle or mutual friends. Before going on a date we've often already established that we get on alright.

 

This is generally how I want to approach it too, but funnily enough my current girlfriend of 3 years and I met online, but through a forum.and then adding each other on facebook. I played around with Tinder (a 'meeting people' app) for fun recently just to see what it was like and it did feel like it'd be a weird way to meet a potential date since I couldn't shake the feeling I was browsing products for one that fit my needs* more than I was looking for a human I liked.

 

 

* This was really not meant to sound so gross.

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I think browsing products it uncomfortably close to how some dating sites feel. Like people are shopping for partners.

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Good work Ben :)

 

Did he try to get back on the mic once you'd finished?

 

Immediately and for the rest of the night :(

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I think the only way to solve this is to produce a very high quality, HD video several hours long of him doing this, then force him to watch it while hungover. Like that bit in A Clockwork Orange.

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Oh, I don't think he was drunk. Apparently he also busks just because he loves performing so much.

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i spent the first hour or so at work today researching online programs to get a degree in civil engineering w/structural focus. then i stopped when did the calculations on tuition, credit hours/semesters & the return on investment

 

There is a 33% increase of time vs full time student, the median income isnt too far off my current wage, and tuition is very cost prohibitive with house, cars, general life in the way

 

the only way this would work is if i could get my job to pay for it which is an extreme long shot.

 

be nice if i was 19 again.  

 

oh well

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~~life is hard and stupid~~

 

:tup:

 

 

i love my work too, i wouldnt even leave it to go be an engineer, it would just help/solve some problems we have at my office. maybe i can just get an abridged set of courses.  like class developing foundations for structures in C class wind loads and figuring section modulus for cantilevered elements - a certificate would be cause for a raise too

 

 

after this beer wears off maybe ill go looking again

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How frequently do in-person meetings work out, though? A statistically significant portion of relationships (at least in NA) come from online dating. I've been a member of online dating sites for quite a while. It doesn't feel like it's "better" than randomly meeting someone. It also doesn't feel worse. I wish I knew all these places that I could "go out and do stuff" to meet women. I belong to multiple sports leagues, I literally worked in a bar. I've acted on and off since high school. All the women are either taken or gay. Internet at least they're looking, too.

I was pretty stringent with who I'd actually meet. I found that having a phone call before was a good litmus test of whether you'd get on in person. Much better than sending messages. If there was trouble making conversation on the phone, it'd be magnified in person, with the reverse true too. From other people I know who are currently online dating, the rate of finding someone they like is pretty low. And on top of that, only 1 has found a partner who she is serious with.

I've not really met many girls or women "going out" and I'm at the point in my life that I really don't want to meet someone who frequents clubs and bars because I don't really enjoy those places. When I'm exercising, I don't want to talk to people, and I'm sure women in the gym don't want to be bothered either. Nor do I have a pool of friends I can draw upon for potential dates. My coworkers are either married, too old or you know...coworkers. So online seems to be the only way for me, which I don't really mind.

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I went to my aunt's wedding yesterday while my partner went to his grandparent's 50th wedding anniversary. We both ended up having great times. I found it really nice to see a lot of extended family I haven't seen for years, some only once or twice before that.

 

As for meeting people it can happen in the most ridiculous ways. I started dating my partner after we played singstar and danced together at a house party. Been going on four years now.

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I was pretty stringent with who I'd actually meet. I found that having a phone call before was a good litmus test of whether you'd get on in person. Much better than sending messages.

 

Hey, this is good advice! Thanks.

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Which, in winter, will be just fantastic.

 

Exactly! Trying to motivate him to sort it out before it comes to that!

 

Thanks for the advice guys! Sadly my car is not in a safe enough place to leave the car doors open. Also it's been raining pretty much continuously here, so I've not wanted the windows down either. Luckily the smell has gotten less worse, but still very prevailent. I'm not feeling light-headed anymore, and the smell goes after 5 mins of sitting in it :)

 

Also Ben, that was hilarious. Was that at the Dobbler's by any chance? thought I recognised the pub :D

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So uh...my uncle (in law) has been arrested on charges of possessing child pornography. Merry Christmas, I suppose.

At least he's an in law!

 

I started Starbucks three weeks ago and I think I want to quit. I haven't worked these kind of low wage jobs since 2007 and before to my teens, and I feel like I'm getting too old for this shit. I wanted 24 hours max to juggle school and contract art work I am getting but I'm already being bumped to 32 and beyond because of the typical shit where people are too incompetent to show up for work and turnover is a bitch. I am at supposedly the highest volume store in Austin so basically I show up at 5 am and work eight hours with a line that never ends anywhere while the behind the counter eventually becomes a disgusting mess. I wanted to just walk out today because I wasn't allowed a lunch break for eight and a half hours. I was told I was a "rock star," but thanks I'd rather have my guaranteed two ten minute breaks and 30 minute lunch. I need that for my own mental health because then I go home with my head spinning and sleep my day away.

 

I work Christmas too, but I heard it pays well in tips and plus time and a half so there's that. The tips are kind of great at the store because of the volume, but I don't think this is worth this. I'll see what becomes of the next two weeks because a lot of people are on vacation right now so it's agonizingly short staffed. Just ugh, makes me feel like a failure in like to be one year shy of thirty and deal with this shit again.

 

On the bright side a few weeks ago for my finals my digital painting teacher talked to me for like an hour after class at the end of the year. He was reviewing my sketchbook and felt like I really needed to get into illustrating for freelance work. That I was wasting a lot of potential by doing a bunch of bad video game companies the past six years. He was curious why no other artists had ever told me before that I have the "gift" of a strong individual style, but I guess he, as an illustrator, only deals with book covers and illustrations, magazines, and poster type prints, so he doesn't mess with the concept art world of video games where it's just constant dissatisfaction and a need to mimic some other style. He said a lot of people who found my work "too humorous" or "not realistic enough" even when I really try to push realism are right, but that I could make a killing off of just marketing what style I have and sticking with it, like many other illustrators who do the same. He seems confused I'm in the Motion Graphics program, but I've only really ever gotten positive feedback on my animation in my career.

I don't know, I almost cried right there because he said in his 20 years of teaching he never had a student with such a marketable and individualistic style. He gave me many directory type things where I could solicit my art and try to get a website together of like 10-12 finished illustrations, a few of which he thinks I already have on my current website.

 

I mean, I know he's just one guy, but it kind of meant a lot to me coming from a teacher. I personally don't think I'm all that unique or amazing, but I recognize I am better than more than a few other working artists out there, but not technically better as he admitted. I guess I have been doing some paint overs for a few artists I know the last few years just to help them push their character work. Maybe I should really stop being a wuss and try to market myself for once in my life. Anything but Starbucks fuuuuuuuuck

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i want to see your art

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Yeah man, your art is ace. I agree with what your teacher said. I don't know anything about art as a trade, but have you tried being a comic book artist? I feel that there's some surreal manuscript out there that's perfect for your style :)

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